Expectations of others weigh you down
The question arises: is there a reader of this article who harbors no expectations? Even the expectation of not having any expectations becomes an inherent expectation in itself. Each person, knowingly or unknowingly, holds expectations in various aspects of their lives. Expectations play a significant role in shaping individuals’ aspirations and interactions with others.
In fact, we also have high expectations from the universe and governments. Let’s consider an example of a child whose parents expect her to achieve a flawless 4.0 GPA. However, this pressure is likely to divert her away from the learning process. Maybe the child truly desires to be a dancer, but her parents’ expectations push her towards pursuing a career as an engineer or a doctor.
Expectations: Unrealistic and irrational!
In today’s competitive world, where improvement is emphasized in all aspects of life, not meeting societal expectations can induce the feeling of failure and stagnation. Nevertheless, recognize that expectations from family, relatives, friends, and co-workers are often unrealistic and impractical.
The Unraveling and Dual Nature of Expectations
While expectations can serve as a powerful motivator, they can also become burdensome. If individuals are unable to meet others’ expectations, they may experience feelings of demotivation due to disappointment. Meeting academic targets, fulfilling professional responsibilities, and maintaining personal relationships can provide a sense of purpose and direction through expectations. However, failing to meet imposed expectations can lead to feelings of inadequacy, demotivation, and guilt. So it’s better to not have any!
“Blessed is he who expects nothing, for he shall never be disappointed.”
– Alexander Pope
Harmony in Expectations
It is crucial to avoid feeling overwhelmed or frustrated by these expectations and prioritize personal well-being and happiness over high-set bars. Setting realistic and achievable goals, taking incremental steps, and maintaining a balanced approach will help individuals stay on track toward their parents’ expectations for personal growth. Ultimately, finding a harmonious equilibrium between personal aspirations and societal expectations is the key to navigating the challenges of expectations. Know your potential and work towards making today better than yesterday, step by step.