As Sad as it may be, sometimes relationships don’t work out. We can grow out of them with time and age. We can grow to have differences that make us get into arguments we are unable to look past. We can even reach a point in our lives where we feel we are unable to grow anymore with that certain person still being in our lives. If quarantine has taught people one thing, it is that we too often put the needs of others before ourselves which is extremely unhealthy. Being in a relationship takes time, energy, and most importantly self-love because it is almost impossible to love someone when you are unable to love yourself. Here are 4 times in a relationship where you should take a step back and reevaluate your priorities.
1. You are being held back from your potential
No one should ever make you feel as though they are the anchor to a sinking ship. Relationships are never about discouraging someone to make another person feel better. Relationships are about finding the best version of each other and growing. If you feel like a person is holding you back from something you want to do by not believing in you or not being supportive of your goals, then it is time to re-evaluate the structural integrity of the relationship itself.
2. You feel a sense of non-forgiving resentment
This may seem like an obvious reason to re-evaluate your relationship, but sometimes we blindly love someone so much that we deny resentment to things they may have done in the past. For example, if your S.O. cheats on you once, but you never talked it out, you may have underlying resentment that is yet to be solved. This may very well be something that can be solved, however, the longer you stay in denial the harder it will be to solve the issue.
3. You are exhausted hanging out with them
If you feel that you must mentally prepare yourself to hang out with your S.O., then maybe it is time to see why that is. Being in a relationship should not be tiring or something that makes you feel it is a burden.
4. You are changing for the worse
You should NEVER be changing into a worse person in a relationship! Relationships are for growing into better people. It is important to know how you have changed in a relationship and see if you have changed positively or negatively.
All in all, with the new year approaching, let’s all start to take into account if our relationships are taking a positive, negative, or neutral toll on our minds because, in the end, we come first.
