Since humans are imperfect; we are going to experience insecurities about ourselves. When we think of “insecurities” we think of physical insecurities, but in reality insecurities are much deeper than that. We can be insecure about an array of things: how we speak, how we dress, how we do a certain thing like cook or sing. The list goes on and on. Before we dive into this topic, however, we must remember that insecurities are OUR perceptions/thoughts about ourselves, just because it is our perception doesn’t mean that that perception is true or reality.
Our uniqueness is what makes us interesting and beautiful. Beauty is very interchangeable; a couple of years ago, skinny bodies were considered ideal, whereas now, curvier bodies are seen as the beauty standard. The very thing that you are insecure about may be in style in a couple of years. Although having physical insecurities is normal and human, it’s kind of senseless because beauty is truly in the eye of the beholder, it’s ever-changing, and ever-evolving. Other people may kill for the very thing you are insecure about. I used to be insecure about being a slimmer girl, and you don’t know how many times I’ve had women come up to me just to say: “damn, I wish I was as skinny as you.”
Those comments made me realize that beauty is evolving and that I should love the way I look because other folks would kill to be in my shoes. I had a friend who was insecure about her voice (she had a deep voice for a female), and I would always tell her how beautiful, unique, and even sensual her voice sounded. One of the first compliments her boyfriend gave her was that her voice sounded beautiful. We need to realize that our insecurities are really all in our heads. When we learn to love ourselves… and I mean LOVE ourselves, every part of us, our flaws, quirks, etc. We have this newfound confidence and comfort in our skin that we’ve never experienced before.
I had a friend who was insecure about her cooking skills because she was paying attention to how well her mom cooks (someone who has had years of perfecting that craft). When my friend practiced and perfected her craft over the years she became one of the best cooks I’ve ever known. We need to stop comparing ourselves to people who have a more mature version of our gift, and instead learn from them, practice, work hard, and perfect our craft. Before you know it you will be even better than them if not equal.
We need to love ourselves, and we need to understand that beauty is ever-changing and universal. We need to understand that just because we aren’t the best at something now doesn’t mean we can’t be in the future with work and determination. We need to be aware of our human condition and understand that we are all imperfect with insecurities, but that doesn’t mean that we are not beautiful and that we can’t become better versions of ourselves.