Let’s face it; no one particularly enjoys being left on read. It means that whoever you were talking to got your message, saw it, and didn’t reply back for numerous reasons. We’ve all been there! You’re not alone, so don’t sweat it!
- Anxiety is one of the biggest culprits in making us feel as if the reason someone didn’t reply was because of something you did or said. Sometimes it actually has absolutely nothing to do with you. People have busy lives; sometimes they may read a message and honestly completely forget to reply back. You also have to take into account that their phone could have died, or something in their immediate environment distracted them from being able to reply back. We live in a 24/7 culture where we seek instant gratification when we send a message or watch a video. So when you keep coming back to get your fix, like a drug, and you don’t get the same response it throws your brain off.
- Another reason may be because you are in fact being “ghosted” or being left on read. In this case, look into the context of the situation. Was what you said actually a conversation in which warranted a response? Sometimes it not always is. If it was, how long does it usually take for said person to actually reply back, sometimes people need more time to respond to something than a couple of seconds, I know shocking right? Give the person some time to reply back.
- If the person you’re talking to really is doing it completely on purpose then I suggest seeing if it is a pattern. If it’s a pattern and you know the person well, then speak to them about it. If not, then take the hint and move on. This can be a hard pill to swallow, but you’re an awesome person that has a lot to offer! People will make time for the priorities in their life, if they’re doing it on a continuing basis; you’re not a priority. You will be glad that you moved on and used your energy elsewhere besides worrying about whether someone replied to you or not. Eventually, you will come across people who don’t make you feel this way and in the meantime find constructive things to keep you busy and your mind off of the “ghosting” situation.
It may hurt being left on read because that means you don’t have any control over the situation, but that actually isn’t true. You can control the way you respond to it by how you choose to feel about the situation. It sounds challenging, but with practice in thinking about the situation in a different way, your mind will eventually get used to it. Think about a muscle being exercised, your brain needs the same care as your body mentally, and this is one of the ways to help make you strong both mentally and emotionally.
Keep smiling and be happy, because at the end of the day your happiness comes from within and your worth is so much greater than being left on read.
Things will work out and it gets better, best wishes my friends.
