Being alone gets such a bad rap because humans naturally seek a soul mate and want a mate to do activities with. This phobia of loneliness forces unhappy relationships, toxic friendships, and clingy tenacious.
Actually being alone brings out your best creations and ideas. Aside from building character, being alone trains you to be comfortable being alone.
Most people struggle to be alone for seconds. But when you are content with being in your own skin and doing things alone, social skills increase.
When you are alone, you discover talents you never knew you had. When I say being alone, I mean being productive alone, not cramp up in your room eating ice cream and binge-watching shows. You have to dive deep and discover your love language. What relaxes you? What brings you peace? Do you know yourself?
Being alone makes you comfortable doing abnormal things you wouldn’t do around your friends. Enjoying solitude involves entertaining yourself the best way you know how to.
If that means being barefaced in baggy clothes in the house or saying taboo things in your own home, then so be it. This is building your independence and not feeling the need to impress others.
When you are in touch with yourself, you know what you want and don’t want in friendships and relationships. It is easier to genuinely connect with others and socialize when you’re not dependent on others.
Don’t know where to start this journey of comfortability of being alone, I’ll help!
Write your thoughts out
Get into the habits of doing self-care days alone:
- Take yourself out to see a movie
- Go to the spa
- Eat out ALONE
- Go to peaceful places alone like the beach, park, or lake.
Travel places alone
Go to free gigs like poetry, art museums, and concerts
Binge-watch a show
Experiment in the kitchen
Take up a new hobby
Read a book