So, we’ve all heard the expression “put yourself out there,” right? But what does it actually mea
n to put yourself out there? Does it mean physically leaving your house and going to events? Going to clubs? Bars? Restaurants? Parties? Exhausting yourself socially? Well, it could. It really depends on who you are and what you care about. Putting yourself out there means something different for everyone, and it looks different for everyone. I personally think indulging yourself in the things you like, love, and enjoy doing will attract you to people with common interests.
I have always been a firm believer in the theory “you attract what you are/radiate.” I think when you put yourself out there by doing things and spending your time on hobbies you care about, you will attract like-minded individuals. Let’s say you love playing video games in your room, how can you take it a step further and actually meet people? You can join online live streaming platforms (Twitch is a great resource for this), attend events, and talk/network with other gamers. Do you love makeup, beauty, and exploring beauty trends? Let’s step it up a notch – make a YouTube or Instagram account, start posting your favorite looks/products, attend makeup events, get a job at a makeup store, network with other beauty/makeup lovers.
Putting yourself out there is not a one size fits all – it truly is a different process and experience for every individual. I think focusing on the lack of people and/or the lack of connection in your life can be detrimental to you and your mental health. Focusing on things that make you happy and working on yourself will always be a beneficial experience, whether or not you are trying to “put yourself out there.” Try to remember what it is you love about yourself, what you care about, the kinds of activities you enjoy doing, and I think soon enough, the right people will enter your life. Putting yourself out there is a mix of doing the things you love, being vulnerable and real with yourself, and going outside of your comfort zone, bit by bit. It’s all baby steps. Don’t overwhelm yourself by trying to do it all in one leap, like forcing yourself to perform in front of a crowd if you’ve never done that before, or you’ve never taken a step that significant before.
Another important thing to remember is that not everyone is going to like you, and likewise, you’re not going to like everyone. If you do something outside of your comfort zone and are not met with 100% positive energy, please do not be discouraged and do
not take it personal. It is not a reflection of who you are as a person. You’re doing amazing, sweetie. Positive daily affirmations are incredibly helpful as well, as well as positive self-talk. Telling yourself that you matter and that you are smart, kind, patient, caring, and that you can do anything is more helpful to you than you will ever know. So, if you have been looking for a sign to “put yourself out there,” this is it.
Go apply for that job, talk to that girl/boy, try on that outfit, experiment with that makeup, dance alone in your room, sing in the shower, go to the park by yourself, work on your confidence. Put yourself out there, baby. You got this.
