It’s always awkward crushing on someone on social media that doesn’t know you. Especially when you find yourself lurking on their profiles pretty often, even in the wee hours of the morning, to the point where you end up on their brothers, wife, sister-in-law page. The hardest part about this scenario is trying to gain their attention. Sometimes you just want them to notice who you are, but of course it’s always easier said than done. So what’s the best way to make the first move? Some may say just slide in their DMs.
If we’re honest, sometimes finding love is all about taking chances. In some cases you may never meet your love interest unless you risk it all and just go for it. Sliding into someone’s DM’s may seem like you’re coming off thirsty, but in reality it’s all about your approach. There are several people who will vouch for social media being the perfect dating app, as their relationships have blossomed from meeting kindred spirits on platforms like Twitter and Instagram.
One aspect about social media that helps potential mates collide is being in control of how you run your profile. Based on one’s posts or pictures, you’re able to get a sense of the type of person they are, drawing your attention towards their likings. It’s all about plotting. Like or favorite the posts you deem interesting first. This can make for the perfect icebreaker and may even lead them towards your profile to figure out who you are. By approaching them this way you’ll come off less creepy when you gain the confidence needed to make that glide. Maybe the best way to start a conversation can stem from how much you like their profile or how it relates to yours.
It’s also all about respect. It’s easy to spot someone that’s just looking for a booty call and that may get you ignored, or in worst case scenarios, blocked. Corny pick-up lines may guarantee a good laugh but not a reply. Take your time, put effort into your approach and be smooth with it. Say something that sets you aside from everything they’ve ever heard before and may guarantee your recognition.
Sometimes it’s great to cut the chase, skip the small talk and just be straightforward. Afterall, they do say less is more. Don’t overthink if this is what you really want. Let your end goal be known, hit send, and let fate do its job. The power of a simple message may shock you, as you’ll never think it can lead towards one of the most meaningful interactions you’ll ever make. So don’t be scared, just take a chance, because you never know how perfect things may turn out to be.